It was the middle of the week and I arrived home from my 9-5. Since it was typical night, I ate, showered and jumped right in bed. For months now I kept telling myself that I had to finish “The Wait” by Devon Franklin and Meagan Good. I grabbed the book and opened to the last page I remember reading (yeah, I’m terrible) and within seconds the Lord revealed something so amazing and powerful to me. On page 111 of “The Wait”, it says ” When God created you, He made you a whole woman.” I stopped in my tracks. “Did this book just say what I thought it did?”, I said to myself. I grabbed my bible and opened it up to Genesis, specifically the passage when Eve, the first woman was created.
“But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man, The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman for she was taken out of man.” – Genesis 2:20-23
This is what the Lord revealed to me: Women, when you were created, you were uniquely made. Unlike the man, you are not missing anything. You are not missing a heart, a mind and more specifically, a rib. If God has created you to be this way, why do we look at our lives as being incomplete if we don’t have a man? It is not you that is physically or spiritually incomplete; my dear; it is the man. God took Adam’s rib to make Eve and He made her a whole woman. Why do we chase down men? Why do we feel it necessary to pursue them? We are searching for void that should be non-existent.Although we may not say it, it’s that secret desire we have in our hearts. “Oh, if I have ___, my life will be complete.” “Man, if (Insert man’s name) finally notices me”. Meanwhile is God right in front of us saying , “Daughter, you are whole just the way you are. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, in MY image. Your identity will never be found in a man.” Women, we are so focused on being in love with the creation (man) and not the Creator.
Being in a Godly relationship or marriage is beautiful, when we replace God with man is when the problem comes in. Colossians 2:10 tells us what we are brought to fullness with Christ. Psalms 23:1 tells us that the Lord is our Shepard, what can we want? Psalms 139:14 tells us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Songs of Songs 4:7 reminds us that we are beautiful and there is no flaw in us! If the bible is constantly affirming these things to us. why do we feel that God is not enough to complete us? That there is something else, something better that can satisfy us?
My prayer for all women,including myself is that we become whole in Christ, just the way He created us.